Today in our present generation marriages, dating
relationships, and friendships are failing like never
before because we build them out of God’s order
with wrong expectations. A downward spiral begins
when we start developing an appetite for bonding
and connecting with others first, before we ever get
acquainted with God and the defining value of
understanding our life passions and purposes which
brings clarity and distinction to our life. When we
don’t have definition or clarity in our life we tend to
connect with misfits that have no connection or
relativity to our life beyond an emotional or sexual
connection. This spells disa disaster in relationships’ and
ster marriages.
Let’s see, how does the dating circus begin? First,
you are either anxiously alone, single and perfectly
content, spent from dead end relationship, or in the
heat of a progressive career with everything in place
accept that special someone.
Then suddenly, one day he or she catches your
attention. You can hardly stay focused on anything
when they are around other than how you can get a
conversation started without blowing it. When you
finally meet, you enter th the acquaintance stage, start
having fun, and discover th that you have so much in
at common. Right?
In many cases we skip the
friendship stage where time and circumstance
usually tend to reveal motives, differences, and
weigh the substance of the individual. Instead of
taking the high road of careful consideration we get
lost in the euphoria of the budding acquaintance that
quickly becomes a relationship before we know it.
When you are apart, you count down the minutes
until you see that special someone again. You believe
you are in love and you want to spend the rest of
your lives together. Life happens, you move in
together and after a couple ye years of sampling you get married
maybe?
After a while the honey moon stage expires and the
struggles of life cause things to become a little rocky.
Problems and trials take their toll. Your jobs, family
members, and friends all pull you in different
directions. Then you see if the bottom falls out. If it does we just start the cycle all
over with another person without studying the wrong steps we made
in the last relationship. Unfotunately unhealthy cycles just keep going until someone decides
that something about the process has to change. I think it starts with re-evaluating how we utilze our time as singles......To be continued
(Excerpts of this book was shared today.)
