Wednesday, May 7, 2014

A word to all singles.

Today in our present generation marriages, dating relationships, and friendships are failing like never before because we build them out of God’s order with wrong expectations. A downward spiral begins when we start developing an appetite for bonding and connecting with others first, before we ever get acquainted with God and the defining value of understanding our life passions and purposes which brings clarity and distinction to our life. When we don’t have definition or clarity in our life we tend to connect with misfits that have no connection or relativity to our life beyond an emotional or sexual connection. This spells disa disaster in relationships’ and ster marriages. Let’s see, how does the dating circus begin? First, you are either anxiously alone, single and perfectly content, spent from dead end relationship, or in the heat of a progressive career with everything in place accept that special someone. Then suddenly, one day he or she catches your attention. You can hardly stay focused on anything when they are around other than how you can get a conversation started without blowing it. When you finally meet, you enter th the acquaintance stage, start having fun, and discover th that you have so much in at common. Right? In many cases we skip the friendship stage where time and circumstance usually tend to reveal motives, differences, and weigh the substance of the individual. Instead of taking the high road of careful consideration we get lost in the euphoria of the budding acquaintance that quickly becomes a relationship before we know it. When you are apart, you count down the minutes until you see that special someone again. You believe you are in love and you want to spend the rest of your lives together. Life happens, you move in together and after a couple ye years of sampling you get married maybe? After a while the honey moon stage expires and the struggles of life cause things to become a little rocky. Problems and trials take their toll. Your jobs, family members, and friends all pull you in different directions. Then you see if the bottom falls out. If it does we just start the cycle all over with another person without studying the wrong steps we made in the last relationship. Unfotunately unhealthy cycles just keep going until someone decides that something about the process has to change. I think it starts with re-evaluating how we utilze our time as singles......To be continued
(Excerpts of this book was shared today.)

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