What's love got to do with it? part3

Hi! I know it's been a minute since I continued the conversation we were having about love and relationships so here we go. you know i have been recently intrigued by this new book that has been penned by comedian Steve Harvey. It seems that millions of people are desperate for information as it relates to male female relationships.

One thing that really gets on my nerves is this. Many of us want new and better results in our relationships without putting the time and effort into becoming knowledgeable about the root issues of the problems we deal with in relationships. too many of us want a cosmetic makeover in our relationships. I say that because we shun or reject uncensored truth, and the real work it will require for lasting change. We want everything fast and easy. We must stop stop evading self evaluation because many times that's where change and growth starts in our relationships.

Recently someone asked me why my blogs on relationships are so long and I became a little irritated. I wasn't irritated by them just thought that some people could miss valuable information that could really help them and their relationships as it relates to love because they are too lazy to read. In this life what you need will not always be handed to you. There are some things you must seek out for yourself. Ultimately, as it relates to love and relationships, I write this blog understanding that we will only change things in our lives and relationships when we get tired of banging our heads against the wall of disappointment and Ignorance. We must change the things we can no longer afford to tolerate. we have been talking about Love but we must first commit to loving ourselves. Love not only looks out for the well being and interest of the other person but it also cares for the giver as well. Love is not about ignoring you and your needs totally. Love is not blind and it's not stupid.

Self love would not tell you to ignore abuse and neglect. You can love a person as they are going through different struggle in your relationship but you must know when their struggle and issues are too damaging to your life to carry any longer. You can still love a person even if your relationship has to change. you may be dating someone and you are realizing that the relationship is not good and is very negative. You may still love that person but you don't have to stay in the dating relationship with that person because that type of relationship isn't working for the both of you. This is why a relationship with God and wise counsel is so important as we seek to enter romantic relationships. sometimes we try to date people we were only supposed to be friends with or we date people that we have nothing in common with and there is no common purpose connecting us to that person other than they are "Fine" or "Sexy." If sex get involve at some point when we are casually dating an individual it causes great confusion because we tend to call what we feel from the experiences love when in most instances it is not truly love at all. Start loving yourself by thinking before you act and understand that wisdom for better choices come from accountability and good information. Seek them both if you truly desire to love and be loved correctly.


Think on these things...............................................

Eric Little
AKA "Twin"